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Curtis Carnes's avatar

I had my 20th year high school reunion this last weekend and I forgot the shirt I was planning on wearing. We went to TJ Max when I got to my hometown. Everything sucked. I decided that I was just going to wear a t-shirt. "Clothes didn't matter to me," I told myself. Then Nancy told me to check out my dad's closet for a shirt. I found a Land's End short-sleeved black button-up shirt. I figured, "What the hell? I'll try it on." I felt a million bucks when I put it on. I walked different. I conducted myself different. I felt something as I wore it. Something I did not feel when I wore other things. It was subtle and I couldn't even explain it UNTIL NOW. What I felt was congruence! There was alignment between what I wore and the confidence I felt inside.

Here's my problem: I have been "ignoring [my] clothes" and "negat[ing] their power to tell [my] story" my entire life! I tripped backward into congruence this weekend. Now I need to consider how to "intentionally shape that message."

And yes, Nancy, will be just as dismayed as Bre if/when I tell her this!

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David Ramos's avatar

Haha I love this story - and I actually think this is the exact experience a lot of guys go through. They "trip backward" into a fit that ~feels~ like them, and then they have to make a choice: do I step into this congruence, or do I backpedal into what I'm used to?

I think Wednesday's challenge will add some clarity as to the next best step, but you're fully on the right track already!

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Lead me!

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